Issue 12: Connecting

Although I have experienced personal challenges during the pandemic, I’ve also discovered wondrous gifts.  One of these has been an explosion of new connections and reconnections.  What intrigues me is that I haven’t really sought these as my life was already quite full and social.  And yet, I seem to have been drawn back to my past and into my future in a way I never have before.  I’ve never been one for reunions and yet I’m now back in touch with my class from school and business school after no contact for 35 and 25 years respectively.  I’ve discovered a rich, new friendship with someone I barely knew in business school.  Having already been part of three longstanding groups before lockdown, I’m now involved with six or seven.  Part of me can feel overwhelmed by this unsought burgeoning in my social and professional connections, but part of me feels like I’m just being drawn into the web of life, which we are only just beginning to recognise is so deeply interconnected.

I have heard many others remark upon their own experience of this, which evokes an image of the human brain with its seemingly infinite array of neurons and synapses.  It’s as if humanity is firing up expanding clusters of connections in the way the photograph displays so beautifully below.  I increasingly feel as if life is living through me and the connections I allow within myself are mirrored in the expanding human web, and vice versa.

I don’t begin to understand what is going on, but I do have a strong intuition that it is these connections which will expand to unite humanity despite all our apparent differences and divisions.  I always remember the epilogue to EM Forster’s novel, Howard’s End: “only connect”, and have just found the fuller text within the book: “Only connect! That was the whole of her sermon. Only connect the prose and the passion, and both will be exalted, and human love will be seen at its height. Live in fragments no longer.” I can think of no better mantra these days than this.  We all have the capacity to defend and ‘other’, but we also have the capacity to connect and embrace, both within ourselves and with each other.  The simple choice of which we do seems imperative at this critical stage of our evolution.